I am - Self IdentityI value - Self WorthI think - Self ExpressionI feel - Meaning GivenI love - Love GivenI doubt - Truth GivenI decide - Other IdentityI need - Other WorthI believe - Other ExpressionI ensure - Meaning ReceivedI differ - Love ReceivedI dream - Truth Received … [Read more...]

In 1923, the philosopher Martin Buber published his essay, Ich und Du (later translated into English as I and Thou). In the essay, Martin describes how human relationships often fall into two distinct categories, the I-It, and the I-Thou.In I-It relationships a person tends to see others as objects who must be managed, fought, coerced, or seduced to make them follow certain predetermined behaviours. This usually leads to a self centred perspective in which a person sees others in terms of ‘what you can do for me?.’  In Dream, this is termed an I-I connection as the individual finds it challenging to see beyond their own self.In contrast, people in I-Thou relationships experience each other as being individuals with unique … [Read more...]

When beginning a Dream project with a client, we usually start by asking three questions.  These are Who am I?, Where am I going?, How will I get there?, and if we are working with a group, then Who are we?, Where are we going?, How will we get there? Who am I? Who am I? usually encourages answers that begin to define Identities and Intentions. Our identity is our unique presence, and our intention is what we do with it. It is often what people ask when we meet them for the first time - who are you and what do you do? Where am I going? Where am I going? often produces replies that describe Values and Needs. Our value is what we are usually attracted to and our need is what we are drawn towards.  Values and Needs are often the … [Read more...]